The reprimanding attitude of the parents affects the psyche of children negetively making him or her pyschological wreck
I am putting all the parents and general public the question that are they aware that how they distort the psyche of children in many ways? Why some children who are basically intelligent but become unable to fair well in the classroom ,examination and life situations . What effects them or what effects the psyche of these children which are considered intelligent up to 5th class but afterwards they become dull and poor .they become unable to concentrate own their studies and can
not learn their lessons even after repetition of lesson . They even fail in the examinations.
Here in this article, I have tried to answer all these queries and give some useful hints and suggestion to solve this queer problem we are now living in the competitive world. We have to excel our abilities and capabilities to go ahead or surpass others. We have to explore our latent potentialities we have to face competition in each and every field of life those who are mentally and physically sound and healthy can compete their competitors well. Those who are laggards do not see anywhere. So Darwin’s statement “survival of the fittest” holds valuable and guiding even today. Rather its relevance to the competitive world of today has increased manifold, Parents have very high expectations from their children. Every parent wants his son or daughter to be doctor or engineer and to see their children on top of the list without judging the real capabilities of their wards. So children have to repeatedly prove themselves in order to survive or to get good marks in the exams.
They leave no stone unturned in order to prove to the expectations of their parents even stretching them beyond their capacities. Some of them are fully confident when they appear for exams but there is a category of children who become very nervous before exams and there is great fear for exams in the minds of these children. They have repeated feeling of failure in the examination and examination creates tension in their minds. Although at the end they shine in their exams by getting good marks by being diligent and conscientious but their level of confidence is very poor.. This shows their poor confidence even though IQ level is high .Signs of nervousness are expressed in the form of trembling of hands and excessive sweating of palms of hands during the examination and some suffer from anticipatory diarrhoea before the examination.. Who is responsible for shattering the confidence of children?. Teachers and parents both play their role in this regard.. When there are two children in the family some parents are in the habit of constantly comparing the capabilities one of their child with other. It may be teacher in the class .The child who is little weak at studies is rebuked and snubbed by their parents constantly and repeatedly by narrating following language, “you are good for nothing, you can not succeed in your life , see the marks and performance of your brother” the repetition of such incidents deeply effects the psyche of the weaker and meek child. The child actually starts feeling inadequate and inferior in front o f other
In the next stage of the development of his injured psyche the child starts dropping his efforts to any task allotted to him even he refuses to give a try to his task. But some children enter into stage of double mindedness here and become indecisive. They pick one book to study but after 2-3 minutes pick up another. Their mind will not able to decide which book is to be studied first from here forgetfulness starts. Child starts forgetting which he learned previously or on repeated reading the same page 2-3 times he will not able to understand and comprehend what he is reading ?. It seems as his eyes are reading the text but his mind is not picking the ideas.. Child starts loosing concentration. Not being able to concentrate his mind on studies, his mind starts going into imaginative world, fancies starts developing into mind automatically whenever he goes to study. Generally there is a book in his hands but his mind floats into world of fancies or imaginations. He pretends to the parents as if reading a book but actually his mind is somewhere else. Now he becomes day dreamer. From here his mind starts escaping studies. He starts postponing each and every task which is assigned to him. Some of them start experiencing Déjà vu here and distortion of time senses start occurring to their mind. Now he become very down in his studies due to decrease level of concentration, poor confidence, abstraction of mind, forgetfulness. The child who used to be very intelligent unto 5th standard now starts getting poor marks. This worries a lot to parents. Does not worry take the help of some good qualified homoeopathic physician? Counseling of child is needed, I am sure your child will start getting good marks again
Follow these instructions and suggestions religiously:
First of all leave the habit of comparing your child with other children of his age
Try to boost the psyche of child by giving him moral support
Inspire your child by giving him some prize for his or her achievements.
Try to understand the capabilities of your child
Make the schedule for studies and allow his time to fulfill his hobby
Give healthy and nutritious food to your child
Eight hour sleep is must
Admire him positively what ever marks he gets in exams or tests
Start spending some time with your child
Take the help of some qualified homoeopathic physician or psychiatrist
The following time tested homoeopathic medicines can help a great deal to bring back the lost confidence of your child to normal level
Lycopodium, Silica, Gelsemium, Anacardium, Zinc met, Medorrhinum, Argentum nit, Carcinocin etc